Recently, I received a phone call from a relative that I hadn’t spoken to in awhile. He was in the process of organizing our first “official” family reunion, so he asked me to help him with some of the details. As we were discussing the event, the conversation shifted to discussing the vast amount of time that had passed since the last time we spoke. We both recognized that other things had taken precedence, so we began to explore ways to improve our family connections during this present year.
I realized during the discussion, that we have to be intentional about anything that is important in life. If we value something, then we will not neglect it. Exam your calendar, your bank statement and your itinerary; where are your time and finances mostly allocated towards? Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be Luke 12:34. Is family time a treasure in your life?
Most of us have heard the saying, “You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends.” Sometimes when we become frustrated and feel disappointed with the actions of family members, it causes us to question whether or not we want to stay connected to them. An easy solution is to distance ourself, unless an event forces us to be together. Since we get the option of choosing who to spend our social time with, we can easily substitute those desired family connections with friendships. But despite the drama, have you ever stopped to meditate on God’s purpose for making you a branch on your family tree?
I do not have all of the answers, but I do know for certainty that it was not random, but a part of God’s plan when He placed us in our respective families. Every experience that we encounter is an opportunity for our Father to shape us more into His likeness. Those arguments, those disappointments and those stressors create circumstances that should cause us to turn towards Jesus, not away from Him. Remembering that God wants us to be a light in dark situations should be spurring our desire to battle against the devil’s schemes of division.
Sadly, the people closest to us can hurt us the most; the expectation is that family should know how to love one another without causing pain. In a perfect world, this would never happen. Since this is not our reality, we have to be intentional about making sure that we are able to love our families despite their faults. We should love each other deeply because love covers a multitude of sins I Peter 4:8.
If you are experiencing heartbreaks because of the dysfunction that exists in your family, I encourage you to seek God. God knows the deceitfulness that exists in the heart’s of men Jeremiah 17:9. Be mindful that He chose you to be a vessel to pray and to intercede for your family, so that healing can take place. How can you be a light, if you are separated from them? Do not run away from your mission, but instead be intentional about your assignment. If you make God your number one treasure, everything else will be in order.
Prayer Starter: Heavenly Father, please help me to stay connected to the loved ones that you have placed in my life. I desire that you stay as the focus and that you help me to create more opportunities to connect with my family. You have given me the responsibility to pray for my family and to help them to know you more intimately. Heal me of any hurt or bitterness that I may be holding on to as a result of things that have been done to me. Help me to let go of the past and to allow you to use me for your glory. Amen